Thank you for reading my blog. I appreciate all comments and feedback and to ensure that my message remains true to me, and that this continues to be a fun and rewarding experience for me, I participate in comment threads.
The comment space on my blog is not an internet free-for-all.
I read every comment, respond to questions, and take the time to try to clarify myself if someone finds what I have written unclear. I also moderate all comments to ensure they are on topic, not selling anything, polite, and civil. I reserve the right to edit or not publish your comments if I feel they are not in the spirit of what I’d like this blog to be all about. For that reason, all comments are by approval until you have commented and become an approved commenter. If you do not see your comment immediately, have patience, I check the queue almost daily.
Do not be rude. Do not use this space as a place to promote your personal agenda or product. Think of it as having a conversation with me and other commenters; a polite, civilized, pre-internet, face-to-face conversation. I have no interest in arguing with anyone, in real life or online so if that’s your main mode of conversing, please take it elsewhere. If your comments stress me out, you’ll probably be banned from commenting.
One thing I have learned over this journey is that you do not have to allow everyone into your life. I share a lot of personal information here, and I expect to be treated with respect and courtesy, as we all should.
Thank you for reading and participating,
- Kate
Kate, I really appreciate you and thank you for sharing such personal stuff!
kate, i was reading all about you and you have inspired me greatly!!! i have lately been trying to lose weight so fast that i have been killing myself not eating and exercising. but reading this has just made me realize that i dont need it to happen right away, i just need it to happen period. even if it has to be over time. i did however have a question.. when you were larger did you even realize you were that big? i ask because i had no idea that i was even as big as i was untill i saw a picture of myself that almost made me cry… i was 287 lbs about three months ago and i am now 240, however for some reason i am not losing anymore weight.. do you have any advice you could give me to help me keep losing it? and also did u ever splurge and eat something you just knew that you shouldnt have?
Slow and steady wins the race. Starving yourself and over exercising may work for a bit, but eventually you will hit a wall. My advice is to slow down, eat enough to fuel your body, exercise enough to be active but take rest days too. In my world, no food is off limits. But there are off limits portions. Sometimes I have pizza or ice cream or whatever, but I always mind the portion size. I never binge eat.
Well thanks for ur advise. I am looking forward to being a good weight again lol. u are a true inspiration!
I’m going to try not to put to much time and energy into figuring out “How did you get so wise?” about, well so many aspects of the physical problem of obesity and just say thanks for, wow everything, all the work and effort you take to make this site helpful to so many. I am declaring you one of my Top Ten Mentors in Life. (no pressure intended!) Thank you so much
kate, i just found your site–what an inspiration you are! I have lost 30 pounds over the course of one year—I would like to lose another 30 this year. Just like you said—slow and steady. I quit smoking exactly the same way you did but that was 13 years ago this coming valentines day and I don’t miss it at all. Thank you for being you!
Kate, I saw you mention 3FC – I’m there too; would you mind sharing your user name on that site so I can read your posts (does that sound weird?) I also wondered if you had your body fat % measured. Your posts about how great you look at such a surprising number (high) is consistent with my experience with weights (I post on the weight lifting forum there) and I’d guess you are about 20%, which is why you look great. It’s all about body composition and the weight is just one number and not that important at that!
Kate, I was drawn to your site in search of an image to post on fb that would reiterate the fact that I love myself just the way I am. I have read your description of yourself and I congratulate you in on your success. My life and weight completely changed several years ago when I was diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases. Despite my plans for the future, my body decided to attack itself leaving me barely mobile and on disability. As a very active and productive person, this completely destroyed my self confidence. I have lost nearly all of my friends who cannot understand why I have gained weight and they think I have “given up”. I am the strongest person I know and have physically and emotionally survived many painful procedures and illnesses in order to keep my body functioning at a healthy state. By doing this it sometimes means I must sleep a lot and ingest many steroids which add to my weight. I do, however, have to eat very healthy because of this. Inside I am healthy, low cholesterol, blood pressure, sugar, but the world only sees the new fat me which they are determined to label lazy and unmotivated. This has been a complete eye opener for me and I have had to endure the pain of discrimination against those who are fat for the first time in my life. You are right, “I expect to be treated with respect and courtesy, as we all should.” and we all have our own unique journey to weight loss, even if it means that journey may never take us back to a state of what our society defines as “skinny”. It has taken me years to get my self confidence back and select new people to be in my life who bring the positive energy I need to keep my health in tact. Today I walk, with a cane & sometimes a wheel chair, I talk, with a slur and sometime a stutter, I think, with short term memory loss, and I am FAT, and sometimes less fat or more, and I truly LOVE MYSELF just the way I am. Thanks for allowing me to share so that others may understand as well. All of the best to you.
Thank you for sharing your story! I am glad you have found that self-love. To me, that is the most important discovery of all.
I think this is such a testament to hard work. It isn’t about the number on the scale it is about feeling and living…… Thank you for this……. I am smaller than I have been in years but really concentrating on eating clean and taking care of myself.